I wish Mr. Cartigan and I could take credit for using “parent’s intuition” thereby validating our worth as parents, for knowing that our girls needed glasses. No. It was our dear friend Sophie who noticed and also correctly diagnosed M’s farsightedness. We’d really just thought she was making pirate faces. Turns out, closing one eye and using the other to glaringly intimidate while playing pirates, while sitting at the dinner table, and while watching t.v. (but surprisingly, not while looking at books) was just a coincidental bonus. She has significant hyperopeia
R, on the other hand, showed no signs of any eye-problems but since her DNA is identical to Pirate M’s, we thought we’d better have her checked. Also when she heard that M would probably need glasses, she didn’t want to be left out.
Mr. Cartigan has a big old soft spot for girls in glasses, and that, combined with our great hope that Dorothy Parker was correct and “men seldom make passes at girls who wear glasses” made the prospect of bespectacling our girls irresistible. Oh, well, and the fact that they actually needed them, that was part of it too. I didn’t have to slip the Pediatric Ophthalmologist a $20 to recommend we run to the nearest glasses store. Besides, he’d never have done it for so little.
We were fortunate to get the girls in to see well-respected pediatric ophthalmologists and the girls loved them. In fact, they dictated notes that I had the pleasure of writing out saying things like “They put drops in my eyes and I got to keep my eyes closed. I love them.” (We left the notes with the opthamology team.)
And then off we went with prescriptions to pick out the girls glasses! Their eye doctor recommended Children’s Optical, a non-profit specializing in children’s eye wear. John Mellinger, ABOC, helped us pick out glasses that fit the girls’ faces well. After trying to find frames that fit at other optometrist’s offices and even larger stores like Costco, we were thrilled with the help we got and with the amazing selection of available frames. John added special wrap around cables to the glasses the girls picked out so that they can head-bang with the rest of the 4-year olds and keep their glasses from flying across the venue.
It has been two weeks now since the girls got their glasses. M especially seems happier and more engaged now. It’s surprising to me that glasses would make such a difference and I’m so happy that we were able to get them. Both girls say that things seem bigger and clearer. And, it’s also the easiest way to tell M & R apart now! I know they are grateful for that!